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Jennifer Seip, MA Individual, Couples & Sex Therapy
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RED LIGHT/GREEN LIGHT!

RED LIGHT/GREEN LIGHT!

Need a way to talk about sex with your partner(s)? This game will easily get you communicating about sexy things that you’ve been too afraid to talk about!

Things you will need: Paper, Pencil/Pen,

 DON’T TELL YOUR PARTNER WHAT YOU WROTE UNTIL THE VERY END! 

Directions:

1.) Divide the paper into 3 columns. Title each column separately, Red Light, Green Light, Yellow Light.

2.) Think of all the things that you have done sexually and that you’ve enjoyed. These could be anything from french kissing, to intercourse, to role-playing a specific scenario. Write everything you can think of in the green column.

3.) Think of all the sexual things that you know you would not enjoy. For some, its adding another partner to intercourse, for others its oral sex. Whatever you know you would not want to try, put that in the red column.

4.) Think of all the sexual things that maybe you’ve done only once or twice or perhaps haven’t done it all but you would like to try it. Put those in the yellow column.

5.) When you and your partner are finished, take turns telling each other what’s on your list. Take your time and make each idem into a discussion. Talk about why it is on the list and where. Use this to generate further discussion about your sex life.

You might be thinking, “I can’t come up with that many sexy ideas!” No worries 🙂 I’ve created another post here that has a list of things to think about.

Here is an example of what your list might look like.

Green

Red

 

Yellow

 

Kissing with tongue

Fellatio

Back Massages

Hand Holding

Penetrative Intercourse (penis/vagina)

Dress-Up

Lingerie

Vibrator During Sex

Masturbation

Shower Sex

Cutting

Adding another person

Watching partner masturbate

Sex in Public

Tantric Sex

Dripping Wax

Eating

Role-Play

Anal

Watching Porn together

Different Positions

Different Toys