Love, Sex & Life Blog
I’ve been thinking a lot about self doubt and vulnerability lately. As counselors we are taught that self disclosure is good, only when it aids in the clients growth, (of course we can’t disclose too much because it would take away from our ability to analyze things fairly.) With some people it comes easier and… Continue Reading
When a partner of mine broke-up with me some years ago, I wasn’t ready. It came as a shock. I thought that we were doing fine. In my head, I had planned what we would do together during the holidays. I thought about where we would go, and the shows I wanted to watch together,… Continue Reading
Halloween is definitely one of the greatest holidays in my book. You get to dress up and pretend that you’re something you’re not AND you have the best excuse to binge on your favorite candy! Every year when October roles around, I always look forward to this holiday. But, I also understand that I’m not… Continue Reading
Dr. John Gottman, the founder of The Gottman Institute in Seattle, has proven that there are four communication styles which are extremely destructive to relationships. These patterns of interaction are Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling, and Contempt. If these styles persist in partnerships, it could mean divorce or separation. Knowing what they are and being able to… Continue Reading
I just finished watching last night’s season 7 finale of HBO’s Game of Thrones and man, it was a good one. Don’t worry, there are no spoilers here. For those of you who like it, you know it’s pretty much about dysfunctional families who are fighting to survive, (too bad there were no systemic therapists… Continue Reading
Every summer my entire family gets together for a July BBQ party. My cousins, aunt and uncle, my brother, his wife, and growing, all go to my parents house. This post reminds me of a conversation I had with one of these people at last year’s party. Now, I wont say who I spoke to… Continue Reading
One of the greatest ways to reduce stress and improve mental health is by implementing mindfulness meditation into your normal routine. It is evidence-based and used in many different models of therapy. I’m always using mindfulness in my practice, and teaching clients how to pay attention to their body’s and mind. Being present with yourself… Continue Reading
I get a lot of questions about Polamory. The big ones are, what is it and how do I know if it’s for me? For those of you who are interested in basic information about what being polyamorous means, look no further. What Polyamory Isn’t Being Polyamorous isn’t about having a secret affair. Nor is it about getting… Continue Reading
So last week, I was driving into work listening to my regular radio station, and guess who came on? …Dave Matthews Band, Crash. I love that song. Every time I listen to it, instantly I’m brought back to those high school years when it felt like I had my life ahead of me. My only… Continue Reading
I have this memory of when I was a young girl. I had slept over a friends house and was waiting for my mom to pick me up. While I was waiting, my friend showed me this book that her mom had. It had lots of illustrations of female genitalia. I remember thinking about both,… Continue Reading