Love, Sex & Life Blog
Have you ever heard someone refer to humans as left brain dominant? Do you even know what that means? Well today I’m going to tell you exactly what that means and how to get more out of your right brain. Click here to watch my You Tube video about the left and right brain! What… Continue Reading
I’m going to start today’s tip with an example. Let’s say a couple walks into my office. We’ll call them John and Judy. Right away John and Judy begin talking about a small disagreement they had last week. According to Judy, when she asked her husband if he had a good time at her mothers… Continue Reading
I am definitely a believer in a bit of self disclosure. Some therapists are not, but if you haven’t already discovered from watching my videos and reading my blog posts, I am. Lately I’ve been a bit out of sorts, even a little down. This could be for a million reasons, some of which I… Continue Reading
Have you ever experienced the fight, flight, or freeze response? Our brain’s have a great way of activating a self protection protocol during periods of high stress. If we perceive the threat to be something we are capable of overcoming, we fight. If we think we can outrun it, we fly, and if neither of… Continue Reading
I know what you’re thinking, this post was made for you! We all have that one person, (or two or three) in our lives who we consider to be TOXIC! But what should you do about them? Usually a toxic person isn’t just someone on the street who we can ignore easily. They are often,… Continue Reading
When my husband and I first moved in together, like many couples, we had to workout a few kinks. It was the usual stuff like who would do the dishes, make dinner, take out the trash etc. etc. One thing we didn’t anticipate however was how our work schedules would affect our connection and communication. … Continue Reading
I’ve been thinking a lot about self doubt and vulnerability lately. As counselors we are taught that self disclosure is good, only when it aids in the clients growth, (of course we can’t disclose too much because it would take away from our ability to analyze things fairly.) With some people it comes easier and… Continue Reading
When a partner of mine broke-up with me some years ago, I wasn’t ready. It came as a shock. I thought that we were doing fine. In my head, I had planned what we would do together during the holidays. I thought about where we would go, and the shows I wanted to watch together,… Continue Reading
Dr. John Gottman, the founder of The Gottman Institute in Seattle, has proven that there are four communication styles which are extremely destructive to relationships. These patterns of interaction are Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling, and Contempt. If these styles persist in partnerships, it could mean divorce or separation. Knowing what they are and being able to… Continue Reading
I just finished watching last night’s season 7 finale of HBO’s Game of Thrones and man, it was a good one. Don’t worry, there are no spoilers here. For those of you who like it, you know it’s pretty much about dysfunctional families who are fighting to survive, (too bad there were no systemic therapists… Continue Reading